Over the last few years, I realised that I have become a much more confident person and I believe that my greatest lessons have been learning from my own experiences. Today, I wish to share some things that worked for me and how I developed and continue to build my own self-confidence.
Growing up, I was known as the nice, ‘shy’ girl. Fast forward, years later, taking part in singing competitions, moving, starting a new life, work experiences, doing things that require talking on-stage, mentoring students, working as a student radiographer.
So, what changed?
- Become comfortable in appearing foolish – No one actually cares. I learnt to embrace myself wholly, my quirks, differences and projecting it in a better way.
- Overcome self-destructive comparisons – Sometimes an indication of lack of self-confidence could be insecurity and jealousy from other people’s progress. Always always remember that you bring your own qualities to the table.
- Confidence does NOT always require certainty – It is knowing, accepting and trusting yourself to handle whatever comes your way. The quickest way to build trust in yourself is doing the things that you promised yourself to do. From what I’ve noticed, a lot of other people’s confidence solely relies on certainty and everything going too smoothly however confidence wavers and then suffers when things do not go the way you want them to.
- Do things that scare you – This always worked for me. Don’t get me wrong, I made mistakes in the process and learnt from it but it nearly always built more confidence in myself. So, go and grab those opportunities!!
- If nothing works, I realised that people cannot tell the difference between fake and actual confidence – fake it till you make may help people more than we give it credit to.
* There is a fine line between arrogance and confidence though – some notice the difference and catch themselves immediately if they think they are crossing the line. The key thing is knowing the difference.
Hope you have a great weekend! Stay blessed ♡